The Unlocked Heart

The human heart is the index of the purity of the individuals spiritual system. It is its hologram. Every thing that we experience as a problem is within ourselves. Consequently the solution to the problem is also within us. We can heal, we can forgive, we can bless, we can create abundance. All of this is possible through the positive action of polishing, purifying, cleaning what is within us. All toxic emotions smudge the heart. The heart like wise is capable ofbecoming rusted by impressions negative emotions and by depletion of God consciousness and has, therfore to be polished so that it gets clearer and cleaner.

We all are warned of dangers of negative emotions. Right from psychologist to new age gurus and no normal person can be blamed because this pharse are so often repeated that you took it as gospel or Gita Upadesh.

But then let me tell something radically different. That all emotions save a vital

purpose and every one of them is an intrinsic part of your emotional wisdom.

I did even take that one extra step to say that whether or not you accept all your emotions as valid- and are willing to feel them is the single biggest decision that will make or break your psychological health our emotions connect us to our Authenticity.

Our emotions are essential for us to be able to navigate our daily environment and to follow the path to connect to our soul without them we wouldn't be able to connect to our true passions, to know to our true passions to know what we truly need and desire and find the motivation to move in that direction.

Our intuitions and instincts are informed:-

Our full range of emotions including the heavy and unpleasant ones. Shutting down, shooing away or suppressing any of our emotions diminishes our connection to our innate wisdom. That is why accepting all our emotions as valid and valuable is so important. It's worth saying again, the quickest way to block our ability to access our emotional wisdom is to consider half of our emotions as negative and something to avoid or change.

In order for our emotions to be helpful to us, we must engage with what we are truly feeling, not what we would rather be feeling. All emotions give us valuable information and trying to simply clear away problematic emotions equates to denotes the wisdom of our emotional body.

If we engage with what we authentically feel, our emotions will guide us forward what is right and true for us and I feel this is what being authentic is all about. But then if you are not particularly concerned with authenticity, here is why this is also important for our psychological health.

Exilting one emotion causes others to go .....

When we allow ourselves to authentically feel our emotions, receive the message they are trying to give us and fake the actions that they are telling us are needed, then our emotions will naturally, move on until they are needed again. This is how the emotions are wired to work. But some may be thinking of those particular emotions that you feel all time, that just doesn't seem to ever go away. Those emotions aren't moving.

____________why that happens?'

When certain emotions are not allowed to do their lab, the need, the reason why they arose in the first place-still remains so what happens when the right emotion for the job is not allowed in ? Other emotions will step up in its place, but they wont be able to meet the need because they were not designed for it. This means that when certain emotions are exited from our psche, other emotions get louds and louder - not out of desire to be a pain in the neck, but in a valiant and fertile attempt to help us.

This results in cycling emotions and stuck emotional patterns that don't resolve even when we do all the right things. As long as the emotion that is truely needed remains evitec, the cycling will continue.

Our emotion keep in safe:

The idea that emotions like fear, anger and sadness are harmful and should be avoided not only sets people up for serious psychological blocks and dysfunction, but infact puts people in danger. To illustrate this, lets look at a couple of specific emotions.

a) Fear

Our fear is intriscially tied to our instinct if safety and even running in the back ground

it keeps us alert and aware of our surroundings. Fear is what makes us safe drivers isn't it?

People who have rejected their fear, whether consciously or not, lose their ability to discu..... danger, causing them to trust the wrong people and and up in all kinds of unsafe situations.

b) Anger

Anger is another emotion that keeps us safe of course, in a different way. People whose anger in offline, perhaps due to childhood messages that expressing anger in any form is unsafe and not allowed, lose their ability to set healthy boundaries and stand up for themselves.

Imagine that you can't allow yourself to feel anger, because you have interlised the message that anger is bad and you must always be polite. How well do you think you be able to stand up for yourself in this situation.

Our emotions help us navigate our world.

Humans are social creatures. We have been so successful as a species because of our ability to co-operate with each other in vast and complex ways. Emotions give in our ability to relate with each other and are a massive part of our social intelligence. This is not just borne out by psychological studies but also by research on animals.

Primatologist frans de waal says, we can't understand animal behaviour without emotions because emotions are the principles behind behaviour. So when we lose the ability to feel our emotions, we lose our ability to function in world.

Neuro scientist Antonio Damasio's research shows how emotions play a vital role in social cognition and decision making. In his book 'Looking for spinoza' Joy, sorrow and the feeling brain, he talks about one his research subjects, a young woman who suffered a head trauma in early childhood that blocked her ability to feel shame, guilt or embarrassment sounds likes a nice condition to have.....right

Unfortunately her story does not have a happy ending. Because of her inability to feel shame, this young woman was insensitive, unreliable, disreptive and a danger to herself and others. She was intelligent came from a good family and had plenty of therapy and support but she still couldn't function socially, empathize with others, hold a job or live independently nor maintain stable relationships.

Can you imagine without healthy shame, where no one was able to admit their mis-

takes and say I am sorry. We need to say to the idea of negative emotions.

Whether the emotion shaming messages come from Christianity, Buddhism, Hindu-

ism new age spiritual teachers or our family they cause the same damage.

Not only do emotional healing methods and guidance based on this positive and negative veelencing not work very well and sometimes cause more problem than they solve, often the person or client will come away from the experience feeling like it is their own fault when their problems don't actually solve.

I believe this is tragic and so unnecessary to know from experience that is is far easier to change our inner emotional dynamic by working with our emotions instead of against them

As Rumi famously put it

Do you know why your mirror does not glitter

Because the nest in not

Cleansed from its surface

How does one polish the mirror or heart ?

"Through remembrance and meditation, the heart is polished.

Until the mirror of the heart receives

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